Andrew: I am praying for a win-win solution

Dear Andrew,

I am writing to you you here in hope that you are able to access the Internet where ever you may be in the world and that you might read this blog.

I always believe in win-win solutions.

Right now Andrew, you are in a lose-lose-lose situation.  When Mia got custody and the move away order then that was a lose-win-lose situation.

Let me explain.  When Mia got custody it was a “win” for her considering she would be able to go back home to her country, however it was loss for you because you wold not be able to see your son Thor very often.  I also believe it was a loss for Thor as he would not be able to see his father very often, and I believe that fathers should be a part of their childs life.  Win-lose-lose!

Now let me explain what I mean by lose-lose-lose.  Right now Mia has a loss, because she is facing having to live without ever seeing her son (and as a mother my self, that is a really BIG loss).  You are also at a loss in this situation because you have had to give up your life, your family, and your friends for a life on the run.

But the biggest loss of all is Thor’s, the innocent little boy in this whole mess.  The boy who never asked to be in the middle of a situation like this.  A little boy who I am sure loves his dad, because that is what babies do.  A little boy who at this stage of his life is in critical need of his mother.  What kind of childhood will he have not knowing his mother?  What kind of father will you be able to be for him when you always have to be scared of being caught?  What will you tell him when he gets old enough to ask for his mother?  Will you tell him the truth?  One day Thor will find out regardless.  And you don’t want to be that person who deprived him of having a mother.  Your son might one day hate you for that.  As a parent myself, I realize that you might have left with Thor in the heat of the moment, but that in your heart, you really wants what is best for your son; even at the cost of your own happiness (at least that is how I feel as a mother).

So now the good news!  Let me explain what needs to happen to turn this situation to a win-win-win.

I am sure if you bring Thor back, Mia would be willing to renegotiate her moving to Sweden, I am sure she would be willing to live anywhere, even on the moon, if it meant she would be able to have her son back.  So that would be a win for Mia.  It would be a win for you too, because you could come back to your life and you would be able to see Thor.  I am sure we can find a way to negotiate with Sheriff’s Department to withdraw the arrest order if you where willing to come back with Thor.  It could be so easy.

And of course it would be a win for Thor on so many levels.  He would have his mother, his father, a normal life and a normal childhood.  He would have relatives.  He would have lots of people to love him.  And he would know that his father once took him away because he loved him so much, but he would also know that his father brought him back because in the end his father is a good man, an honest man, a man a little boy can look up to.

Please Andrew, make this a win-win-win.  You are the only one who can do that.  If you are willing, I promise you, on my own soul, I will do everything in my power to negotiate a win for you as well.   It is not too late yet!!!!!!!  It is not too late.  You can reach me on h e g e “at” a l – a l i . o r g     Please, I am begging you think of your son.

I only want the best for Thor, as I am sure you do as well.

Thank you for reading!